I want to start this blog by sharing this powerful scripture that always touched my heart dearly..
“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. with you all “not death, not life, nothing can separate us from the love of Jesus. The love of Jesus is eternal.”
I have come to accept that absolutely nothing can separate us from the love of God. He loved us so much that He gave up his most prized possession for us, and if God himself can see us humans at our worst, knowing that some of us would still reject him even after giving us His everything (Jesus Christ), and still sees us worthy enough to receive His unfailing grace, then no human deserves to be cancelled.
One of the major reasons why people tend to be cancelled, especially, in the area of relationships is because of their past.
People tend to look at the history of an individual and ultimately condemn them, because they have no confidence that the individual can change.
And, said individual may continue in their sin, because of a lack of love, rejection, and inability to accept that Jesus bore and forgave their sins and has made them whole.
We are the Jesus our world see’s, and if your world cannot feel the love of Jesus through you, who is a follower of Christ, it will be so hard for them to receive love from a God they cannot see.
Therefore, making it harder to overcome sin or even believe that God has washed away their past and that they actually have the power to overcome it.
I will share a little bit about my husband and I’s relationship, prior to making the decision to be married…
My husband and I met 4 years prior to being married, and at the time his past preceded him.
I had heard so much about him before we physically met; and I had a preconceived notion about him.
As a result, when we met, I already judged him, little did I know that we would meet again, and God would so humbly allow me to marry a man I once judged so harshly.
We were graced to meet again 4 years later, I had grown spiritually, (thank God) and God allowed me to see that, every diamond has to go through a refining process before becoming beautiful.
I realised that my husband did not need another person to reject him or judge him because of his mistakes, but rather he needed a friend who would extend the love of Christ to him, and more so a friend that would remind him of his value, help him see his potential, and how great he would be the moment his surrendered to Christ.
The moment my husband surrendered his life fully to Christ, he realised that his environment played a huge part in his mind-set.
Staying in an environment where you’re cancelled, automatically causes you to cancel yourself. My husband was in the midst of people that constantly reminded him of his past and always spoke that he would never be any better than what he was.
Jesus gave my husband the strength to realign himself to an environment that spoke life into him, one that reminded him that he is the head and not the tail, that Jesus bore his sins on the cross, he is a new creation, and that his past does not define him.
But rather…the spirit of God that raised Christ from the dead lives within him, and would strengthen him to overcome every label that was put on him, and enable him to live a righteous life.
1 Peter 2:24, says that,
“He himself bore our sins’ in his body on the cross, so that we might die to sins and live for righteousness; by his wounds you have been healed.”
This is such powerful scripture because just like my story which my wife shared, Jesus says that his healing and forgiveness are available if we just surrender to him. There is no sin too great that He cannot forgive.
Jesus is always knocking on the doors of our hearts and waiting for us to answer.
I want to encourage you to remember that you are only as great as your environment. Surround yourself with a community that speaks life over you, and sees you just as God see’s you, not cancelled but as redeemable, restorable, and an overcomer.
This was so vital for me, as I had to unlearn a lot of systematic behaviours that became the norm in my life.
Rejection was one of the things I had to overcome and unlearn.
The foundation of our lives ultimately determines the future that precedes us.
I had a lot of traumatic experiences around the area of rejection, that affected a lot of my relationships.
I wanted to feel loved, and I tried to fill the void in my heart with women, sex, money, and alcohol. I find that this is the story for most of the young people in our generation today, and they tend to make poor decisions by filling their voids with temporary pleasure.
This then affects them, their future, causing stigmatisation and negative labelling, which breeds pain and brokenness.
As I grew to know Jesus deeper, I realised that only His love could satisfy my soul. I realised that, in order to be able to love anyone else, I had to first receive Christ’s love which would change me, transform me, renew my mind, and make me whole.
Furthermore, what I saw growing up … (broken marriages, domestic violence, rejection from my father etc) did not have to be repeated in my life, and I learnt that foundations that precede us are most times, ones that we have to break in order to start again with Christ who is our solid rock.
The sad reality is that..
Many young people in our generation don’t know this.
They find themselves in a never-ending cycle, of traumatic experiences, heart break, and broken relationships, which can be traced back to a foundation of trauma, childhood, and family history.
Nevertheless, the beauty of Christ, is that when we come to him, He doesn’t just fix what was broken, He makes us completely brand new.
I want to leave you with this…
The culture you begin with does not have to be the culture you end with.
God has given you the power to break your old foundation and recreate one in Him.
Your past does not have to define you or determine your future.
The world cannot cancel you when you are chosen by God, and I am a living testimony of this.
A man who was once labelled, kicked out of churches, had 2 children out of wedlock, disowned by family, is now a pastor, married, and serving God faithfully with my wife.
I am not perfect.
But the transforming power of Jesus, has brought me this far, a place I know I am not deserving to be, but by the Grace of God He found me worthy enough to call me his very own; He can do the same for you.