If you cannot forgive the people from your past, then you do not have a future!
I said it, and I’m gonna say it again…
If you cannot FORGIVE the people from your past then you do not have a FUTURE.
Unforgiveness: It is a deadly poison that will repeatedly kill your appointed blessings, opportunities, joy and peace.
Yeah…issa kick up your feet and grab your tea kinda post, today.
You see, many of us don’t like to mentally associate with our past because that means emotionally associating with the people who caused us pain there.
When we look back at our lives, we feel the pain of people who lied on our names, we feel the sting of friends who betrayed us, we consider the discomfort of our parents who left us to figure out life on our own, we re-experience the agony of the people who humiliated us, we sense the aching pains of those who rejected us, we’re triggered by the shame of those who belittled us…
I mean, let’s get REAL.
There are people in our past that have done us downright DIRTY and they know it.
And of course, there are people who have wronged us, but haven’t got a clue that they have even caused us pain!
Whatever it is…
People really be the pain-causers in our lives 99.9% of the time. If we sit down to examine a specific hurt from our past life, we can most likely put a face or faces to that pain.
But, it’s okay…let’s keep it moving while we secretly pay them with resentment, bitterness, and hatred in our minds and hearts because that’s what they deserve, right?
In fact, very wrong.
Because the only way to truly ‘keep it moving,’ say ‘goodbye’ to your yesterday, and welcome your tomorrow is if you make the present decision to FORGIVE.
Tomorrow may come, but if you do not intentionally decide to STOP feeling angry or resentful at someone for an offense, flaw, or mistake you will relentlessly be cycling life in your yesterday.
You absolutely need to FORGIVE. Your need to forgive will typically outweigh your desire to, but it must be done for the betterment of your sake and for your promising tomorrow.
But why else?
WHY MUST YOU BID UNFORGIVENSS GOODBYE?
1. BECAUSE YOU WERE FORGIVEN…
Well, for starters, you have been forgiven.
I want you to pause for a moment and think about all the many times you slandered somebody, betrayed somebody, rejected somebody, or humiliated somebody. For somebody else, you have been the source of their pain, but they decided to forgive you.
And, what a relief that probably was for you, right?
You must FORGIVE because along this road in life you will also intentionally or unintentionally be the source of another person’s pain and you will need them to extend grace to you for all your wrongdoing.
But listen up..
People simply haven’t forgiven you…but God has forgiven you all the more so!
Ephesians 2:4-5 (NLT) says,
But God is so rich in mercy, and he loved us so much, that even though we were dead because of our sins, he gave us life when he raised Christ from the dead. (It is only by God’s grace that you have been saved!)
Wow. The beauty of scripture and God’s love for us is incredibly overwhelming. His mercy is so RICH and His love for us is so DEEP, that He sent his son Jesus to pay a price with His blood so that our past silly mistakes, transgressions, and debts could be cancelled.
I mean…it really doesn’t get any better than this!
God has forgiven us, so we must also forgive.
We cannot possibly say we bear the image and likeness of Christ when the very core being of his nature is one, we fuss over to exude.
Look at it this way…
Jesus didn’t commit your lie, theft, slander, gossip, or pornography sin. He was the most blameless man to ever walk the earth! Yet still, he got uncomfortable just for us and PAID A PRICE so that we could be FORGIVEN, FREE and FAULTLESS.
Forgiving others is uncomfortable for many of us because it means positioning ourselves to become the SACRIFICE. And offering up ourselves as a sacrifice, isn’t exactly painless. It comes with its own unique sufferings.
It often means, taking the charge, saying sorry first, extending grace, showing love and ultimately being the bigger person. We’d rather not pay this price because we ‘think,’ it’s costing us our strength, dignity, and worth.
But this couldn’t be farther from the truth…
Jesus said in John 15:13 (NLT),
“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”
In other words, when you choose to pay the price of FORGIVENESS you begin to radiate the greatest love that was put on display 2,000 years ago. You begin to emanate the true love, meekness and humility of Jesus Christ. You become more and more like him.
As you do that, God begins to lift you up and you become a light and real example to all the world.
2.UNFORGIVNESS CAPS YOU
To top it off….
Why you need to bid unforgiveness a permanent goodbye…
Is because unforgiveness CAPS you. Yes, it truly does!
You will always be limited by past pain you cannot let go of.
That’s why I stated that, “if you cannot forgive the people from your past then you do not have a future.”
Because the future belongs to those who are FREE to get there. When you live in a bubble of unforgiveness, it typically means you’re STUCK in a bubble of anger, resentment, bitterness, hatred, offense, and malice also.
You are PARALYZED from reaching true joy. (if unforgiveness is lurking, true joy cannot be present because you’re still holding someone’s mistake over their head)
You are BLOCKED from your blessings. (which is what the enemy looooves because he knows that a major key for you to receive your blessings is when you have pure heart)
You STOP your potential destiny helpers from coming into your life. (you think everyone is out to make your life miserable because of what one person did to you in your past)
You are TORTURED by ill-thoughts of hate and revenge (so, you essentially never have peace because you are always looking to see your past offender pay for the pain they caused you)
The list can go on and on. You are simply capped, periodt.
You are limited mentally, you are limited emotionally, you are limited spiritually, you are even limited in how you make your decisions because everything you do revolves around former pain.
You don’t have the FREEDOM to live, and more importantly live out the FUTURE God has promised you because you’re still STUCK—in yesterday. And when you’re still stuck in yesterday, it means you are NOT moving on to tomorrow.
Hey…you may be saying to yourself, “Michelle, you have absolutely no idea what has been done to me!”
Truth is, I don’t.
But scripture tells me of ALL that was done to Christ. The most innocent of the innocent. Blameless in all of his ways. Faultless in his motives. Pure in his agenda. Yet hung on a cross at the end of it all.
And, it was on that cross that he uttered the most powerful words of His earthly existence, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34)
He had an incredible understanding that people were flawed, damaged, imperfect, and weak. With that understanding he offered up the biggest SACRIFICE of forgiveness this world has ever known.
As I wrap up this series, I ask you, “Who has wronged you? Who has hurt you?”
I challenge you today to seriously examine whether holding their past offense in your heart is worth it.
Bid Unforgiveness Goodbye. Open up your heart to the Lover of Your Soul. He can heal every wound. He can heal every pain. He already did—2,000 years ago.
Love you so,